Is the Bible Ground Zero for Rape Culture?

When the recent “Me Too” movement—intended to bring awareness to the pervasiveness of sexual violence—took the internet, and my Facebook news feed, by storm, I tried to avoid it. I tried to sit quietly and let it pass while looking on with empathy and an encouraging nod to those who were brave enough to tell …

“Because of YOU, I am pathetic.” The Blame Game

Ever heard this song by Kelly Clarkson? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ra-Om7UMSJc I'm well acquainted with it.  Very recently, I had a part-time job in a furniture store where the soundtrack included this heartfelt number.  And every time that sad, pathetic piano music started up, I wanted to run into the manager's office and kick the stereo.  Many... many …

Polyamory – Could YOU make the proposition?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9rsCdxctICE ..."It means you're my husband... but ... I can have a boyfriend"... WHAT THE F%*K?   As sophisticated a presentation of open marriage as Enchant TV has provided so far, I still found myself squirming when Keena made that statement in the first episode of Compersion. It was perfect-- an elegant packaging of a …

Is it unconditional love, “settling”, or submitting to reality?

Someone once told me that while detachment can be a very useful survival tool in certain situations, it should not be a way of life. Yet I’m finding that there are some circumstances and people with whom I have had to adopt a lifetime strategy of detachment. Well maybe I’m not employing the strategy of …

The Blame Game | Does religion foster a sense of victimhood?

At times, I sit back and recall my days as a devout, nearly fundamentalist, Christian and lay minister. I consciously de-converted from organized religion 8 years ago, and I consider the effect that inherited thinking patterns had on my experience. One glaring element of my worldview was a strong sense of victimhood, though I wouldn’t …

Distance Lovin’ Part 4: These Black American men are sick of ya’ll women! Are there better pickings in Brazil?

Back in 2006 Essence Magazine published the article, “Blame it on Rio” which examined the phenomenon of Black men traveling to Brazil to find love and/or sex. Seems that the article provoked some strong responses. On one hand, many black women were offended by the idea that some black men would feel the need to …

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