It’s the elephant in the room—the hard truth that no dating coach, minister, therapist, or expert wants to admit:

Marriage was never designed for love, and the structure of traditional long-term relationships is rooted in exploitation.

We keep getting love wrong because the power-driven model of traditional marriage was invented to serve economic purposes. It erodes love and humaneness, breeds dishonesty and competition, and impedes mutual benefit.

Despite the public’s curiosity about kink, many still clutch pearls at the idea of Domination/submission or BDSM roleplay. Yet the entire model of traditional marriage is a lifelong D/s dynamic—and a raggedy one with coerced consent at that!

We are decades deep in a new millennium, and stagnant men are still beating their chests like cavemen and barking at women to “SUBMIT,” while defeated women line up to bow down. Meanwhile, as other women repurpose gold digger culture for the new millennium to avoid a life of servitude, men get robbed.

We have to upgrade the technology for relationships.

It’s time to stop perpetuating rigid gender roles that clip everyone’s wings. The people who get it–who desire authentic, constructive partnership with one another–are now cultivating relationships based on mutual respect, reciprocity, and their unique compatibility. And people who choose to remain unmarried–from a place of healing and power–are thriving.

Will you join them on the next frontier of human evolution?

The old rules are dead. Love doesn’t have to be war. We’ll need to give up the privileges and fantasies that keep us trapped in power-lust, manipulation, and bottom-feeding partnerships.

Most of all, we must give up the fight against each other.